Individual IFS Therapy for Relationships
Does this sound like you?
Caught in patterns of misunderstanding with your partner that rarely seem to get resolved?
Do you often feel underappreciated or even criticized in your relationships and react in ways that make things worse?
Perhaps you have such different approaches to parenting that you fear that your children are being impacted?
Is it difficult to imagine wanting to be physically or emotionally intimate with your partner, whether from a history of betrayals or simply from years of losing interest?
Through IFS therapy for relationships, you’ll discover the confidence to remain connected to yourself and others for more fulfilling relationships, even during conflicts.
It’s common to fall into certain conflictual patterns that hurt, and it’s possible to transform those patterns with IFS. While recognizing the importance of gauging actual threats of harm and finding support if conflict levels are high, IFS offer new ways to safely navigate ruptures with more clarity about what parts of you need. It’s liberating to feel more resourced even when the other person is not.
The challenging patterns that arise in one’s relationships generally maintain their consistency in themes across many other relationships.
Take a moment to consider your common relational themes. Perhaps, like most people, yours can be traced back to early environments and messages received or misinterpreted when much younger. Given the negative impact of those messages, consider how you may protect yourself from other people hurting you again.
Some of the more common relational challenges include:
Unresolved conflict
Avoiding intimacy
Fear of emotional availability
Being highly critical of yourself or others in relationship
Avoiding conflict
A need to merge with others in relationships
Lack of trust
Feeling alone
Believing that you don’t matter
Feeling misunderstood
Anxiety about the future of the relationship
Blaming yourself or others
We can help you move your relationship forward.
Schedule a free consultation to see how we can help.
Internal Family Systems recognizes that while every part of us is valuable, some may become extreme, making our relationships miserable.
In IFS therapy for relationships, you’ll learn how to listen to your parts without becoming overwhelmed by them. And instead of trying to eliminate parts, your therapist will help you discover inner resources to heal the pain that drives them. In time, old protective patterns become less necessary with more self compassion and understanding available to you, and your relationships.
Ultimately, anyone involved in conflict can learn how to do a “U-turn” - listening inside to your own distressed parts driving the old patterns that aren’t working anymore - and how to “Re-turn” to the other person from a place of greater clarity and presence. You’ll feel the difference in relational ruptures when you can speak for your parts with greater Self energy instead of from a part that’s in pain.
Conflicts can lead to authentic connection.
Imagine approaching your relationships with a fuller appreciation of your own needs while embracing another person’s point of view and values. Whether you suffer from intense feelings of hurt and resentment or more subtle feelings of disconnection and dissatisfaction, your therapist will help you better understand and heal the parts of you stuck in unhealthy patterns with your partner, paving the way to greater intimacy and connection.
Considering IFS Therapy for Relationships?
Imagine a relationship where both people can feel whole, connecting to each other from their core Self and enjoying all of their parts.
In IFS therapy for relationships, we acknowledge that all people have multifaceted personalities and when two people meet there can be both virtuous and vicious cycles of interaction. Getting to know the inner landscape in IFS therapy leads to a greater sense of harmony, wholeness and balance within and between people.
The path of discovery is full of surprises as we learn more about who we really are and how we can feel whole again. Healing inside is reflected in healing relationships, and finding a skilled therapist at the IFS Telehealth Collective who can help is worth it. Online therapy with an IFS Telehealth Collective therapist can support you. You’ve made it this far – keep going?
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If you live in California, Florida, Massachusetts, Michigan, New York, or Oregon, please contact our Client Care Coordinator or call 503-447-3244 to help you get matched with an IFS trained therapist. We are here to support you as you explore your internal family system and learn more about your relationships.
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